Whether you class yourself as an introvert or know someone who does I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to a number of these things. Being introverted doesn’t always mean awkwardly on our phones during social gatherings, we could be the ‘social butterflies’ of the world and still be an introvert.
- Feeling like you could spend all the time alone and not get bored. Introverts can spend long periods of time alone and not get tired of it; after all, they obtain their energy from solidarity. Other people might need constant entertainment and attention in order to stay happy, but they don’t require that. In fact, they run from it. Solitude, peace, and quiet helps them stay grounded, centered, and balanced.
- Wanting to spend weekends at home rather than going out. Weekends mean something different to an introvert than they do to an extrovert. Introverts see them as two days of pure bliss where they can just chill out and relax without having to answer to anyone or meet obligations. Whereas extroverts see them as two days to pack as much fun stuff in as possible. However, introverts just need food and a series off Netflix to binge watch and they will be satisfied.
- Getting annoyed by people who talk to loudly or quickly. Introverts process things differently than extroverts, and usually, they get annoyed with those who talk too loudly. Introverts need time to process what you have said, and prefer conversations that don’t feel rushed or strained. Loud voices and fast talking can make introverts nervous, and they get frustrated when people talk over them.
- Getting nervous or shy when you have to talk to someone new. Not all introverts identify as shy, but some of them get incredibly flustered when talking to someone they don’t know. If you want to talk to an introvert, make them feel welcome and comfortable first – it will help them open up much faster.
- Blushing a lot when they get embarrassed. Introverts also don’t enjoy the attention, so putting pressure on them or making them talk in front of a lot of people can cause anxiety. However, some people blush at anything they perceive as embarrassing, which can sometimes just mean going out in public or talking to the barista at the coffee shop. Don’t call someone out for blushing, it will just make it worse. Just keep talking to them and don’t draw too much attention to the matter.
- Wanting to talk but getting tired after a while. Introverts love talking, but in small doses as they can find it emotionally draining. They can easily get worn out after a long conversation, even if it’s meaningful and thought-provoking.
- The joy of finally getting away into nature after spending too long in suburbia. Introverts love solitary activities, and that includes spending time in nature, such as taking walks in the park. City life can easily wear them out, leaving them feeling disconnected from themselves.
- The feeling you get when you help someone with their problems. Introverts make wonderful listeners and advice-givers, because they can empathize with how someone else feels. Even if they just sit there while the other person pours their heart out, it can make that person feel understood and heard. Listening can heal, and introverts would much rather hear you out than talk anyway.
- Getting annoyed with people who interrupt your alone time. We already feel annoyed if we get too little alone time, but interrupting our precious solitude will make it a whole lot worse. Most of time if an introvert says they are busy and can’t make an event it is probably because they just want some me-time.
- Craving close relationships and fierce independence simultaneously. Introverts are a complicated group – they need both meaningful relationships and plenty of time alone, which can leave them feeling conflicted pretty often. While the relationships in their lives mean so much to them, they also have this unshakable urge to just run away sometimes and enjoy life alone. Striking the right balance between the two isn’t always easy.
Do you think you’re an introvert?