Personality disorders are mental health conditions in which an individual differs significantly in the way they think, feel and perceive certain situations. They are many different types as well and each one can prevent itself in a different way. There are three main categories of personality disorders: suspicious, emotional and anxious.

The suspicious category includes paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, and antisocial personality disorders. The emotional category includes borderline, histrionic and narcissistic personality disorders. The anxious category includes avoidant, dependent and obsessive-compulsive personality disorders.

People with Borderline Personality Disorder may:

  • Feel very worried about people abandoning you and will do anything to stop that happening
  • Have intense emotions that can last a few hours to days and have them suddenly change. For example from feeling very happy and confident in the morning to sad and depressed in the afternoon
  • Not have a strong sense of who they are, although this can change depending on who they are with
  • Find it hard to make and keep stable relationships
  • Get very angry or struggle to control your anger
  • Have suicidal thoughts or self-harming behaviour
  • Feel lonely and empty a lot of the time
  • When stressed you may feel paranoid, have psychotic experiences or feel ‘numb’ and not remember things properly after they have happened



Being diagnosed with any personality disorder doesn’t mean you have a bad personality yourself. You just have positive and negative traits. Everyone has moments where their behaviours can cause problems, the only difference with BPD is that some if these feelings or behaviours can be difficult to manage.

What causes BPD?

There is no clear cause why people are diagnosed with BPD however there are factors that make it more likely to have it than others. These factors include:

  • Being female, more women are diagnosed with it than men
  • Difficult childhood and teenage experiences
  • Genetic factors

Stressful times if you are already experiencing some of the BPD symptoms can make things worse as an adult.


What can I do to cope with my emotions?

If you feel you are struggling with BPD or even just some of the symptoms I have listed above they are several ways of being able to cope by yourself.

One of the main symptoms was having severe mood swings so depending on how you are feeling would depend on what possibly you would need to do in order to feel better. I have made a table below with advice on what might help depending on the emotions you are struggling with.

How you are feeling What to do
Angry, frustrated or restless -Rip up a newspaper

-Go for a run

-Throw ice cubes into the bath so they break

Depressed, sad or lonely -Get a blanket and watch your favourite movie/tv show

-Write all your negative feelings on a piece of paper and rip it up

-Listen to your favourite song or music

Anxious or tense -Take ten deep breaths

-Take a warm bath or shower

-Make yourself a hot drink, paying attention to the smell, taste and warmth of the drink

Dissociative or spaced out -Drink a glass of ice cold water

-Chew a piece of ginger or chilli

-Clap your hands and notice the tingling sensation

I hope this information on the topic was useful and I hop you enjoyed reading it. To cheer everyone up from this slightly morbid topic here are some mood swings:


Gracie x


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