Over the last couple of years, I have learned a lot about self-judgment. There is no point in being your own bully because there are enough people in this world to volunteer for that position.
Having low self-esteem or self-confidence can cause constant feelings of anxiety and misery. Constantly comparing yourself to others and wishing you could be, prettier, smarter or funnier. It gets exhausting continuously trying to better yourself. And at the end of the day, we still hate ourselves.
Considering we spend the majority of our childhood and teenage years in education you would think schools would be able to teach us about emotional well-being. However, education is normally defined as learning relevant skills and knowledge towards a certain profession. So, in that case, emotional health being taught by teachers wouldn’t make much sense.
On the other hand, if education is defined as equipping students with the knowledge and skills to help them out with their adult life in general, emotional well-being could be necessary.
Emotions are also key to learning. If you’re not happy, you’re not motivated. And if you’re not motivated then you won’t bother with paying attention and taking in any information in the first place. Another factor to keep in mind is that high levels of stress will decrease the student’s ability to learn. Low self-esteem can sometimes cause stress and vice versa. Being taught about emotional well-being would give us the ability to manage stress more effectively.
It’s all well and good going around telling people children should be taught about emotional well-being but some schools just don’t have the facilities or funds to do so. Another thing to bear in mind is timing. Teachers struggle going into depth about topics they are having to teach, yet alone trying to teach children and young teens about how their emotions work.
When we say we hate ourselves, do we actually hate ourselves?
We become more vicious when it comes to ourselves because it’s a coping mechanism. We continue to believe we don’t deserve to be loved or appreciated. The biggest villain of all of this is the feeling of inadequacy, the feeling of not being good enough.
The problem with low self-esteem is that not only does it make one feel terrible the majority of the time, but research has also shown that those who have low self-esteem are more likely to have poorer mental and physical health, fewer chances of achieving success and more frequent tendencies of committing crimes compared to those with high self-esteem.
Imagine if schools started teaching emotional health, how many people would be able to appreciate life? How many would be able to achieve what they want to achieve? And the fact the amount of crime could possibly be decreased as well.
Teaching children early how to take care of themselves emotionally could save a lot of sadness and anxiety.