I would consider myself to have low self-esteem because there are days, I am the worse human being in the world and I can’t do anything right. There are days where my best isn’t good enough and I’m a failure.
But then there are days when I am queen and I’m the best out there. There are days where I think to myself “Of course my boyfriend loves me, I’m perfect”
And some days I continue to loathe myself but somehow think I’m better than most.
The problem there is no between and I can go from one feeling to the other within seconds. Little things throughout the day can either lift my mood or drag it down.
Low self-esteem nowadays is pretty common, mainly because of social media. No matter how many times they are told, teenagers and young adults see likes on a picture as equalling to how attractive you are as a person. So if your new profile picture on Facebook doesn’t get enough likes, you go around thinking you’re ugly.
As sad as it sounds, it’s how we think. It’s how we have been trained to think.
Self-esteem is a difficult thing to increase as we are always going to be our own worst critics. We all want to be the best versions of ourselves but there are constructive ways of doing it. We need to make an extra effort to be kinder to ourselves.
A way to try to higher your self-esteem is every so often ask yourself this question:
Would you treat your parents or best friend the way you treat yourself?
Here are a couple of other tips in helping higher your self-esteem:
- Work out what is triggering your low self-esteem. Sometimes stressful events can cause a negative impact on ourselves. Instead of assuming you’ll fail, take it as an opportunity to learn and better yourself.
- Get sober. Certain addictions can block learning and can genuinely make you feel down anyway.
- Have an open mind. Instead of things being black and white, have a more “shades of grey” way of thinking. This will give you more options when things do go wrong.
- Stop giving a fuck. Remember whatever happens, as long as you tried your best nobody can ask any more of you.