After growing up as one of six siblings, and being the middle child, I have been able to see my parents deal with the experiences that come with parenthood.

And all I have to say is, I’ll pass.

I know what you’re thinking. I’m only 18 how can I be so sure whether I want children or not?. You’re right, I’m not 100% sure whether I want to have kids or not. But for now and any point in the nearby future that I can reach, I don’t see myself having or wanting children.

Who knows maybe it will hit me in my 30s and suddenly I will feel the urge to give birth to tall, socially anxious and sarcastic little arseholes.

However, it turns out I’m not the only one who doesn’t want children. Research has shown that during the years 2007 to 2012 the birth rates of those in their 20s declined by 15%. This doesn’t necessarily mean fewer people are having children, it just suggests people are having them later.

Although many women suffer from a lot of criticism when they state they don’t want children. Because, according to society, the main purpose of a woman’s life is to give birth and populate the world. Unfortunately, that’s not the only reason women are on this planet.

As soon as a woman mentions that she doesn’t want children she is called selfish. She is told that she will change her mind and some people even go as far as suggesting that women only have sex to have children. Which isn’t the case.

If you’re not in the financial position to raise children why should anyone force you to bring a child into this world? These children would be missing out on things that they could easily have if they had the right sources. For example, people in their 20s may still be paying off university debts or living off student loans.

If someone suffers from a genetic mental or physical health problem and knows how much of a struggle it is to live with, they may not want children as there could be a chance of passing their unfortunate genetics onto this innocent child. Mental health issues such as depression and anxiety can be genetic. Depending on the severity of the illness, suicide could be a possible option for sufferers.

Another thing is if someone suffers from a mental health problem they may not be mentally capably of rasing a child in the first place, depending on the severity of the illness.

We are constantly told that over-population could be a threat to the world so why would you force people to add to the ever-growing number?

Some people may not be able to naturally have children of their own. This means if someone states they don’t want children it may not be because of a choice of their own and therefore you keep on interrogating them will only upset them. Obviously those who can’t have children naturally but do want children have the options of either adoption or surrogacy.

Pregnancy a pain! I don’t know about most women but I definitely know that the idea of holding a baby for nine months and then giving birth to it doesn’t sound like my cup of tea.

The main problem that sometimes stops people having children is the fact it is so easy to mess up when parenting. This tiny person you create is dependent on your healthy choices. And whilst women who don’t want children are called selfish maybe they aren’t.

I mean I can barely look after myself let alone anyone else.

There are many reasons why people want or don’t want children. At the end of the day they shouldn’t need a reason. It’s their body, their life and their choices.

None of which have anything to do with your opinion.

Grace x

 

 

 

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