Recently, it has been going round social media that millennials, those who are born between the 1980s to early 2000s, are a lot more self-obsessed and narcissistic than previous generations.
We have become obsessed with our gadgets and our appearances and suddenly those likes on our selfies are made into a big deal. We were constantly told that we were “special” and that it wasn’t about winning but about taking part.
Narcissism is a personality type that is characterised as selfishness, an overblown view of one’s talents or looks and a craving for attention. Studies have shown that millennials have a higher self-esteem compared to previous generations. I’m assuming that this is due to posting up a selfie, getting a lot of likes, which in turn makes one feel better about themselves. Unfortunately I must be an exception as I still hate myself as much as anyone else.
Social media has created a lot of teenagers and young adults to believe that likes or comments equals how beautiful one is or how beautiful one is perceived as.
Assuming that we are more narcissistic than previous generations, it may be a defence mechanism. Nowadays, we have more of a struggle when it comes to getting into colleges, universities or jobs and receiving less privacy when it comes to the Internet. Maybe having an inflated sense of ourselves makes it easy to face said challenges.
The problem with the way we have been brought up is that we now see everyone as objects. The first thing you take in when you meet a person is whether they are considered attractive or not. And because of this we take what we need from that person and then leave, whether that be for companionship or sex. I find it quite difficult to fully trust people my own age because even if they want me as a friend now, once they find an upgraded version of me they’ll leave.
Fortunately for us, it’s not our fault.
Parents have been teaching their children that they are terrific and that they can succeed in absolutely everything. At the start of the 1980s parents and teachers were taught to build up the child’s self-esteem by frequent praise. This caused parents to constantly tell their children how smart or beautiful they were.
And maybe to some extent me believed them.