The Female Body Vs Social Media

The Female Body Vs Social Media

People, especially teens and young adults, will do anything to get as many likes, comments or shares on their posts on social media. Whether they do this for the attention or the dopamine affect it has on your brain. For girls, especially if they are attractive, the easiest way to make that happen is to reveal as much of your skin as possible.

Whatever anyone wants to post on social media is nobody else’s business, as long as it isn’t full on nudity, people should be allowed to share whatever they feel comfortable sharing. One thing that does irritate me is when underage girls post provocative photos on Instagram or Facebook. Where are your parents? What exactly are you trying to achieve? Because all you are going to get is attention off guys too old for you.

I understand it. You’re young, possibly insecure and you want someone other than your family members to tell you you’re beautiful. However, it isn’t worth sharing your body with the entire internet.

Don’t get me wrong if you’re 16 or older and feel comfortable taking a picture of yourself in your underwear and putting it on social media, go ahead. Why are we judging girls for posting pictures of themselves in their underwear on social media when they would be caught wearing the same amount of clothing when they go to a swimming pool or the beach?

In today’s society, people constantly beg and ask for the female body but as soon as they see it the woman is normally considered a “whore” or a “slut”. Is this because she is comfortable and confident in how she looks naked? Are we going to judge and punish her for being happy in her own skin?

Considering the amount of shit women have to read on a daily, with “lose weight” here and “no one likes a fat girl” there if there are women in 2017 who love the way they look they should be praised. With everything you see in magazines and on social media, it is difficult waking up in the morning not hating yourself.

Gracie x

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Honesty Isn’t an Excuse to be an Arsehole

Honesty Isn’t an Excuse to be an Arsehole

We always see honesty as a good thing to have and when it comes to friends and family members we would prefer people to be honest with us. Whilst it may hurt you would rather they let you know when you’re making a mistake or when an outfit or hairstyle doesn’t look good on you. Note to self; bangs rarely looks good.

However, it is when people use honesty to be rude and sometimes hurtful. Whether these people intended to be mean or not most of the time what they said hurt the person. But they believe they can get away with saying whatever because they are “only being honest”.

Before I continue my little rant I am fully aware I do this all the time. I just go along and say whatever is in my head without properly thinking if it’s the right thing to do. The majority of the time I don’t mean to hurt someone’s feelings.

Trust me you’d know if I wanted to hurt your feelings.

You can be honest and not be an arsehole. It is fine if you are being honest and it is coming from a thoughtful place. For example, if you believed a friend or family member was in an abusive relationship and you cared enough to let them know. But if in your own opinion someone has done something wrong there is probably no need to mention it.

Another example is commenting on how someone looks. If it something someone can change in five minutes, such as something being in their teeth or a piece of hair in the wrong place, let them know. If it isn’t something they can change, their weight or hair colour, don’t bother mentioning it. They will go the day feeling insecure or self-conscious and not be able to do anything about it.

I always introduce myself as a brutally honest person but in reality, maybe I’m just an arsehole.

Now, I’m not suggesting you should tell white lies to make others happy but maybe think before you speak. Think about whether the hurtful thing you’re about to say is really relevant or necessary.

And if it isn’t, shut your mouth.

Gracie x

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Stalker Alert!

Stalker Alert!

For those who have Snapchat, you will have noticed the last update. This update means that if people have a certain setting on the app people can see their exact location at any given time.

Wherever you are, all the people on your Snapchat will be able to see.

It isn’t just “Ah I can see where you are in Surrey”, you can actually get the exact location down to what building a person is in when you zoom into the screen.

It can’t just be me that finds that a little creepy?

When I say I want to stay connected with the people in my life it means having a quick and easy means of contacting them, not knowing their location for every second of the day.

Most people are worried about their partners finding out they are cheating on them but don’t seem to realise this also creates more opportunities for stalkers, murderers, rapists etc. Less worryingly so it may create tension between friendships as well. Next time your group of mates don’t invite you to something you’ll know about it.

To be honest with you I don’t massively care about this new update. There are only ever really three locations in which I’d be at; work, home or the gym. I am aware I don’t lead the most exciting life.

The worse thing is there are younger children using the app, whether that be with or without their parents’ knowledge, and they are unlikely to understand the risk of sharing your location with absolutely everyone. While it may be fine if you only have your friends on your Snapchat there may be younger children who are adding whoever because again they don’t understand the risks involved.

It isn’t just Snapchat that has added this feature, apps such as Facebook, have also got on this hype. Personally, I don’t quite understand the need to know someone’s location. Do we all just live in a state of paranoia or FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) where we constantly need to know where our friends, families or partners are at any given time of the day?

Is this generation really that insecure?

Gracie x

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Let’s Talk About Tinder

Let’s Talk About Tinder

Tinder, for those who live under a rock, is a dating app. The aim of the app is to go through various people’s profiles swiping right if you find them attractive and obviously left if not.

And if you’re lucky enough for someone to find you attractive and swipe right on you, then congratulations you can now talk. Which because your egos are too big it takes a while before anyone has the courage to message first.

Tinder is based on the fact that looks are the first thing you judge an individual on. If you’re unattractive don’t even bother with Tinder. Actually, if you’re unattractive you might fail at modern dating altogether. This generation has brought up to be shallow minded narcissists.

Not only do we believe we are the best, we also believe we deserve the very best when it comes to dating partners.

Whether you are actually looking for someone to make out with or are just bored as hell, Tinder is the app for you.

One thing I noticed as a bisexual girl tinder is very much a sausage fest; for every girl you see you have to scroll through about 10 guys profiles.

Online dating and apps such as Tinder are great for those who work full-time and don’t actually have the time to physically go out and meet people or those who are socially inept and don’t want to physically go out and meet people.

Whilst it has slightly been decreased recently, online dating was seen as something you should be embarrassed by or ashamed of. Suddenly if a couple said they had met through dating online people just assumed that they weren’t going to work out. Whether you met someone online or in real life you have the same probability of the relationship not working out.

However, if your purpose is to find your soulmate I wouldn’t be using tinder as your form of online dating. The majority of people on there are young and are wanting to have some fun, not to settle down.

Gracie x

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Why Do People Get Plastic Surgery?

Why Do People Get Plastic Surgery?

They are two main reasons why one decides to get plastic surgery. The first reason is because of an accident, a birth defect or an illness. The person has been disfigured in some way and they are hoping the plastic surgery will help with both their suffering and their embarrassment.

However, I want to discuss the second reason people get plastic surgery.

The second reason people get plastic surgery is to become more attractive. To cover up insecurities that they no longer want to deal with.

Everyone has their own flaws and sometimes people can get too insecure about their flaws. People can get so insecure to the point they feel they need to get something done to improve on it.

Whilst plastic surgery has decreased in general in 2017 the most popular surgery in 2016 were boob jobs. This is mainly due to the fact that women are constantly told that small boobs are considered unattractive. I understand a lot of people believe bigger is better but that isn’t necessarily the case. Wouldn’t you prefer natural over fake anyway?

I get it. Not everyone is blessed with fantastic genetics and sometimes the flaws you have or think you have isn’t something that can be changed by yourself. For example, someone who is overweight and is self-conscious about their weight can change how they look themselves. Whilst losing weight is not an easy process, especially for some who may not be naturally slim, you don’t immediately have to go to plastic surgery to get the results you want. However, if you’re an adult female who has done her necessary growing and is still flat chested, there’s nothing you can do to change that.

Personally, I am somewhat against plastic surgery where it is unnecessary. You have to bear in mind there are always going to be risks involved and if you’re only going through the procedure to look “better”, is it worth it?

Maybe because I don’t see anything wrong with my own body I can’t understand the need for plastic surgery. As long as the person was doing the surgery for themselves and not someone else. But let’s be honest here we always tell ourselves we are doing it for us when subconsciously it is for someone else.

For example, when you get ready for the day is there someone from your work, college or university that you think about when picking out your outfit?

Maybe these people who are getting the plastic surgery done for themselves when subconsciously they are thinking about what other people think of them?

However, there are some people out there who no matter how much you love them they will continue to hate themselves and the way they look. It is one thing to be bullied at school because of your appearance but it is another thing to constantly see on social media or in magazines that you aren’t the definition of beauty in today’s society.

We live in a world where people are obsessed with being attractive. Is it your fault for not loving that person hard enough or were they always going to go for the plastic surgery anyway?

Gracie x

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Is Makeup False Advertising?

Is Makeup False Advertising?

False advertising is when you show a product as being something it isn’t, so in terms of a woman wearing makeup could it be considered false advertisement?

Technically, yes. If we were selling ourselves. To be considered as false advertising we have to be advertising something in the first place.

Makeup is used to cover up any flaws or imperfections on the face or is used to merely make the face seem pristine and flawless. Whether it be used to cover up acne and bags under the eyes or give yourself a photoshopped model look. Makeup makes us the best version of ourselves we want to be. A bit like alcohol.

Personally, I don’t bother with makeup unless it is on a special occasion or a night out. This isn’t because I believe I am walking perfection or anything like that. I mean I know I’m not unattractive but everyone looks better with makeup with that being its entire purpose in existing. I’m just too lazy to get up earlier to make sure I look better, I’d rather have the sleep than flawless skin. Also, like every other woman product, makeup is expensive.

Makeup does hide who we actually are. However, if you see a girl on a night out who has glittery eyelids, assume that isn’t how she naturally looks.

A lot of men assume we wear makeup for their benefit or to get their attention. After all, looks being the first thing that grabs people’s attention. However, have you ever thought about us spending all that time and effort on our face for our own benefit? I hardly ever wear makeup but when I do bother I do feel like walking perfection.

You constantly tell us you prefer us to be natural but yet you don’t like the sight of our faces when we do that, so what is it to be?

Gracie x

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Beauty or Brains?

Beauty or Brains?

According to most romantic comedies, there are two personality types when it comes to females. The first one is the hot blonde with the perfect figure but an imperfect grade. Whilst she may be a solid 10 out of 10 she is annoyingly stupid but most people let her idiocy slide because of her good looks.

The second type is the reversed, nerdy girl who focuses more on getting straight As than on socialising. Whilst she may know the works of Einstein she is disgusting to look at.

According to society, women can either be beautiful or be smart, it is almost unheard of to be both. You have to choose whether you get married or get a degree.

When I talk about beauty I mean naturally. I’m not talking about being able to look like walking perfection after spending an hour on your face because anyone can look good with makeup. That is its main purpose, to cover certain flaws and make you look better.

In terms of the brains side of things, no one is expecting you to be an autistic genius who can do difficult mathematical sums in a small amount of time. As simple as it sounds even having something such as common sense can make you come across as smart. Ironically common sense isn’t actually that common?

Another thing that makes woman smart is being passionate about something. For example, I wouldn’t necessarily I am the most academic person. It is why I am sat writing this blog rather than trying to continue my education in uni. However, I would say I have a passion for writing. Whether it be this blog, my book of poetry or anything. Having ambitions can make a person smart rather than moping around never knowing what do with one’s life.

We live in a shallow society and whilst the brains would get people places quicker, we are obsessed with being attractive. With apps like Snapchat and Instagram, it is all about beauty these days. Don’t worry your child might not know their times tables but at least they know they need good lighting when taking a selfie.

If mirrors and cameras didn’t exist would we care less about our appearance? Whilst yes you would still have other people commenting on your looks would you care if you didn’t know what they could see anyway?

Out of the two, I personally believe brains is the superior. It is more important in the long run and the one that will stay with you forever. At the end of the day when we all turn old we will no longer beautiful, but at least the smart ones will still have their brains.

But remember, whilst it may be rare, it is possible to be both beautiful and smart.

Gracie x

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