Unrequited love is one sided love, it is when someone is loving someone else in isolation and not getting anything back. When one isn’t getting enough attention from anyone else they will love and love someone even though that person treats them like shit.
It is disgusting, weak and self-destructive and yet we have all at one point done it.
Why do we bother with the goose chase? Why do we bother going after people who don’t love us back?
We constantly feel we aren’t good enough for we have decided that self-worth is dependent on this other person. If they can’t love you, then no one can, right?
Let’s think about this logically; why do we want them so badly if they don’t love us back? When someone shows you a lack of interest that is a signal for you to move on, not to try harder. It is so much easier to let go of something that will never work than to continue wasting your effort.
As cliché as this will sound the main reason we allow people to treat us like shit is because we don’t love ourselves. We treat ourselves like shit. We accept the love we think we deserve, so we allow those to treat us how we feel we should be treated.
If we don’t believe we deserved to be love at all then we will find ourselves a match to people who also believe we don’t deserve to be loved. These people will take advantage of you over the fact you have feelings for you. They will lead you on, they will play games, they won’t call or text you when they said they would. All because they know that you love them.
Instead of moving on and finding someone else who does actually love you, you continue to let this person play games with your feelings for that’s what you feel you deserve.
Just because this person doesn’t think you are amazing doesn’t mean you’re not.