Remorse, for those who don’t feel it, is this feeling where you feel guilty. Whatever you have done or haven’t done you realise was wrong. You are able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and you understand you have probably hurt their feelings. However, does not feeling guilty automatically make you a bad person?
Let’s discuss a scenario.
What is worse; someone who cheats on you but admits they are sorry or someone who cheats on you but never tells you because they feel no guilt towards what they have done.
Whatever the circumstances, cheating is never a viable option. If you have committed yourself to a relationship and find out a few months or years down the line that relationships aren’t for you, then discuss options with your partner.
But let’s think about this logically; what you don’t know won’t hurt you. If you never found out about the cheating you would always believe that you were in a happy and stable relationship, you only get upset once they’ve either told you or been caught in the act.
If you had done something that you knew was wrong and wanted to tell your partner, surely it is more for your benefit. If you are constantly being eaten up by guilt whilst it will hurt their feelings you will feel better after being honest. You admit what you have done for your sake rather than for there’s.
In this situation, whether the person felt remorse for what they did or not; they both are a bit of an arsehole.
Just because someone feels no remorse doesn’t necessarily mean they are mentally unstable. They shouldn’t be immediately put into a category of being a narcissist, a psychopath or a sociopath. It might be more difficult to gain a relationship with this person but it doesn’t mean they are a terrible human being.
At the end of the day, we are constantly trying to give less of a fuck and to stop caring about everyday life. It is a lot better to live a life without a care in the world than to be constantly stressed out. The fact that there are people out there who can’t feel regret or guilt just means they are living a more carefree life than you.
My Book: “Letters to my Past”