We always see honesty as a good thing to have and when it comes to friends and family members we would prefer people to be honest with us. Whilst it may hurt you would rather they let you know when you’re making a mistake or when an outfit or hairstyle doesn’t look good on you. Note to self; bangs rarely looks good.

However, it is when people use honesty to be rude and sometimes hurtful. Whether these people intended to be mean or not most of the time what they said hurt the person. But they believe they can get away with saying whatever because they are “only being honest”.

Before I continue my little rant I am fully aware I do this all the time. I just go along and say whatever is in my head without properly thinking if it’s the right thing to do. The majority of the time I don’t mean to hurt someone’s feelings.

Trust me you’d know if I wanted to hurt your feelings.

You can be honest and not be an arsehole. It is fine if you are being honest and it is coming from a thoughtful place. For example, if you believed a friend or family member was in an abusive relationship and you cared enough to let them know. But if in your own opinion someone has done something wrong there is probably no need to mention it.

Another example is commenting on how someone looks. If it something someone can change in five minutes, such as something being in their teeth or a piece of hair in the wrong place, let them know. If it isn’t something they can change, their weight or hair colour, don’t bother mentioning it. They will go the day feeling insecure or self-conscious and not be able to do anything about it.

I always introduce myself as a brutally honest person but in reality, maybe I’m just an arsehole.

Now, I’m not suggesting you should tell white lies to make others happy but maybe think before you speak. Think about whether the hurtful thing you’re about to say is really relevant or necessary.

And if it isn’t, shut your mouth.

Gracie x

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