Body Positivity Vs Body Honesty

Body Positivity Vs Body Honesty

As a society, we go around telling people that they should be happy and confident with their body shape no matter what. We have to go around telling fat and overweight people that they are beautiful and should be accepted for all their flaws.

And I think it is great and all that people can feel more comfortable in their skin. However, it would be the same if you went up to someone who had a bunch of scars down their arms and you told them that they are accepted and should feel comfortable self-harming.

Whilst it may not be physically noticeable at first being overweight or obese can cause a bunch of illnesses, including diabetes or heart disease. This means every time you tell a fat person it is okay to be fat, you are also telling them it is okay to die.

Not only do fat people lead a shorter life and they are seen as less attractive. So, anyone who is overweight, please tell me the benefits of you staying that way?

Whilst I’m talking about the overweight side of the scale I’m sure if someone was extremely skinny or anorexic, people would be worried about their health as well.

Bullying someone to lose weight is never an effective solution, however, I believe we should stop this fat acceptance movement as people will sit in their unhealthy bodies until it is too late. Yes, you can be skinny and unhealthy but you can never be fat and healthy so stop with the bullshit.

You don’t have to go on some fancy diet or do extreme amounts of exercise to lose weight. The main contributor to being overweight is normally portion sizes. It is most likely the case that the person is overeating and consuming more calories than they should be. You could technically eat MacDonald’s everyday and as long as you ate within your calorie allowance, you wouldn’t gain any weight.

I understand that not everyone is blessed with the perfect genetics or the most amazing body. And I also understand that some people find it more difficult to maintain a good weight. But we need to stop with this body acceptance bullshit.

Being overweight and obese is unhealthy. Simple as.

Gracie x

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“It could be worse…”

“It could be worse…”

You don’t have to be grateful just because it could be worse.

No matter what you are going through there will always be someone out there who has it worse than you. That doesn’t make your situation any less relevant. It also doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to be unhappy just because you aren’t experiencing the worst situation ever. Whatever you are experiencing is just as valid as anyone else’s situation.

Same goes for trauma, some people assume that what happened to them doesn’t matter because it “could have been worse”. Whether it was physical, sexual or emotional abuse, whatever happened to you is as valid as what happened to the next person.  

Telling people to be grateful “as things could be worse” is making the assumption that mental illnesses such as depression are down to one’s circumstances when it is caused by incorrect levels of certain chemicals in the brain.

Even if someone isn’t suffering from any mental illness and is just feeling down don’t force happiness onto them. It is extremely draining trying to be happy when you’re really not feeling it. People are allowed their down days.

Now, obviously if a loved one hasn’t left their bed in days then go help them out but if they are just feeling a little down in the dumps and they want their space, then give it to them.

More importantly what exactly qualifies someone to feel sad? You keep saying things could be worse but how worse do things need to be before someone is allowed to feel sad? It’s stupid really. Being sad and feeling down isn’t a competition. Whether something is happening in your life or you’re just feeling down, it is allowed no matter how much worse it could be.

That’s another thing. People can feel down or sad and not have a reason. They might just be having “one of those days” or genuinely can’t figure out why they feeling the way they are. Don’t continue to pester them they don’t need an explanation for their feelings.

Regardless of how far worse your life could be, remember your feelings are always valid.

Gracie x

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