Author: graciehemphill

Name is Grace. I love to write, you love to read. Enjoy.

Why Do People Get Plastic Surgery?

Why Do People Get Plastic Surgery?

They are two main reasons why one decides to get plastic surgery. The first reason is because of an accident, a birth defect or an illness. The person has been disfigured in some way and they are hoping the plastic surgery will help with both their suffering and their embarrassment.

However, I want to discuss the second reason people get plastic surgery.

The second reason people get plastic surgery is to become more attractive. To cover up insecurities that they no longer want to deal with.

Everyone has their own flaws and sometimes people can get too insecure about their flaws. People can get so insecure to the point they feel they need to get something done to improve on it.

Whilst plastic surgery has decreased in general in 2017 the most popular surgery in 2016 were boob jobs. This is mainly due to the fact that women are constantly told that small boobs are considered unattractive. I understand a lot of people believe bigger is better but that isn’t necessarily the case. Wouldn’t you prefer natural over fake anyway?

I get it. Not everyone is blessed with fantastic genetics and sometimes the flaws you have or think you have isn’t something that can be changed by yourself. For example, someone who is overweight and is self-conscious about their weight can change how they look themselves. Whilst losing weight is not an easy process, especially for some who may not be naturally slim, you don’t immediately have to go to plastic surgery to get the results you want. However, if you’re an adult female who has done her necessary growing and is still flat chested, there’s nothing you can do to change that.

Personally, I am somewhat against plastic surgery where it is unnecessary. You have to bear in mind there are always going to be risks involved and if you’re only going through the procedure to look “better”, is it worth it?

Maybe because I don’t see anything wrong with my own body I can’t understand the need for plastic surgery. As long as the person was doing the surgery for themselves and not someone else. But let’s be honest here we always tell ourselves we are doing it for us when subconsciously it is for someone else.

For example, when you get ready for the day is there someone from your work, college or university that you think about when picking out your outfit?

Maybe these people who are getting the plastic surgery done for themselves when subconsciously they are thinking about what other people think of them?

However, there are some people out there who no matter how much you love them they will continue to hate themselves and the way they look. It is one thing to be bullied at school because of your appearance but it is another thing to constantly see on social media or in magazines that you aren’t the definition of beauty in today’s society.

We live in a world where people are obsessed with being attractive. Is it your fault for not loving that person hard enough or were they always going to go for the plastic surgery anyway?

Gracie x

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Is Makeup False Advertising?

Is Makeup False Advertising?

False advertising is when you show a product as being something it isn’t, so in terms of a woman wearing makeup could it be considered false advertisement?

Technically, yes. If we were selling ourselves. To be considered as false advertising we have to be advertising something in the first place.

Makeup is used to cover up any flaws or imperfections on the face or is used to merely make the face seem pristine and flawless. Whether it be used to cover up acne and bags under the eyes or give yourself a photoshopped model look. Makeup makes us the best version of ourselves we want to be. A bit like alcohol.

Personally, I don’t bother with makeup unless it is on a special occasion or a night out. This isn’t because I believe I am walking perfection or anything like that. I mean I know I’m not unattractive but everyone looks better with makeup with that being its entire purpose in existing. I’m just too lazy to get up earlier to make sure I look better, I’d rather have the sleep than flawless skin. Also, like every other woman product, makeup is expensive.

Makeup does hide who we actually are. However, if you see a girl on a night out who has glittery eyelids, assume that isn’t how she naturally looks.

A lot of men assume we wear makeup for their benefit or to get their attention. After all, looks being the first thing that grabs people’s attention. However, have you ever thought about us spending all that time and effort on our face for our own benefit? I hardly ever wear makeup but when I do bother I do feel like walking perfection.

You constantly tell us you prefer us to be natural but yet you don’t like the sight of our faces when we do that, so what is it to be?

Gracie x

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Beauty or Brains?

Beauty or Brains?

According to most romantic comedies, there are two personality types when it comes to females. The first one is the hot blonde with the perfect figure but an imperfect grade. Whilst she may be a solid 10 out of 10 she is annoyingly stupid but most people let her idiocy slide because of her good looks.

The second type is the reversed, nerdy girl who focuses more on getting straight As than on socialising. Whilst she may know the works of Einstein she is disgusting to look at.

According to society, women can either be beautiful or be smart, it is almost unheard of to be both. You have to choose whether you get married or get a degree.

When I talk about beauty I mean naturally. I’m not talking about being able to look like walking perfection after spending an hour on your face because anyone can look good with makeup. That is its main purpose, to cover certain flaws and make you look better.

In terms of the brains side of things, no one is expecting you to be an autistic genius who can do difficult mathematical sums in a small amount of time. As simple as it sounds even having something such as common sense can make you come across as smart. Ironically common sense isn’t actually that common?

Another thing that makes woman smart is being passionate about something. For example, I wouldn’t necessarily I am the most academic person. It is why I am sat writing this blog rather than trying to continue my education in uni. However, I would say I have a passion for writing. Whether it be this blog, my book of poetry or anything. Having ambitions can make a person smart rather than moping around never knowing what do with one’s life.

We live in a shallow society and whilst the brains would get people places quicker, we are obsessed with being attractive. With apps like Snapchat and Instagram, it is all about beauty these days. Don’t worry your child might not know their times tables but at least they know they need good lighting when taking a selfie.

If mirrors and cameras didn’t exist would we care less about our appearance? Whilst yes you would still have other people commenting on your looks would you care if you didn’t know what they could see anyway?

Out of the two, I personally believe brains is the superior. It is more important in the long run and the one that will stay with you forever. At the end of the day when we all turn old we will no longer beautiful, but at least the smart ones will still have their brains.

But remember, whilst it may be rare, it is possible to be both beautiful and smart.

Gracie x

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Is She Gay?

Is She Gay?

After being alive for 19 years I have noticed several things. Firstly, everything you enjoy in life either makes you drunk, fat or depressed and secondly working out if a girl is gay is quite difficult.

Homosexual men are generally quite easy to point out. They’ll talk in a slightly higher pitched voice and use a lot of hand gestures. They tend to have good fashion sense, great hair and are normally into independent and powerful female celebrities; such as Madonna or Beyoncé. They also tend to be drama queens, however, that might stem from their obsession with the influential female celebrities. Now I’m not suggesting all gay men are like this but the majority are.

Whilst stereotypes are mainly there to insult and mock other people they can sometimes be useful, in this case, we can normally tell if a man I straight or not by taking note of certain things.

Without boldly going up to a girl and going “Are you gay?” how can you tell if the girl is lesbian or bisexual.

There were a few things to look out for that could make it more obvious that the girl was gay. But nowadays everyone is cutting their hair short and wearing checked shirts. Short nails seem to be a reliable clue that she may be gay but even then that’s not reliable, she may just work in a phone shop.

If people could just wear a sign around their neck stating if they were straight, bisexual or lesbian that would make this whole flirting situation a whole lot easier.

Another thing that makes flirting with girls difficult is the fact that girls who are friends with other girls are already pretty close naturally. Girl friendships have very little boundaries on what can or can’t be done. A group of close girl mates will constantly tell each other how good looking they are and everything else. So, when a girl tries to give another girl a compliment she may just see it as being friendly rather than flirting.

For your information, if I call you cute it is because I’m trying to be gay. Homo definitely intended.

Moral of this blog post is that if you’re a bisexual or lesbian girl can you try to act more gay, please?

Gracie x

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Are Break Ups More Difficult Nowadays?

Are Break Ups More Difficult Nowadays?

Dating in the age of social media is becoming more difficult. And so is breaking up.

Whilst social media platforms help you connect with people they don’t necessarily help you disconnect from people you never want to see again.

In the 90s, it was easier. You broke up and they disappeared from your life.  Your ex was your ex and whilst you may have been curious about what happened to them there was no way to find out. They could have moved to Africa and you would have never known.

Wherever they were one thing was for certain. They weren’t in your life.

The way relationships work is that once you know the person you are dating is genuine and somewhat right for you, you introduce them to your friends. That happened whether you were dating in the 90s or today.

The only problem with today that would have never happened in the 90s is that your partner and your friends would have made these online friendships. They would have been added on Snapchat and Facebook and followed on Instagram and Twitter. Even after you have deleted them off everything possible you still have friends that are friends with them on various social media platforms and still feel it is necessary to constantly update you.

You only met them because of me just delete them already.

The whole point of moving on is to forget the other person even existed. It is going to be more difficult to move on if you’re always being told about their plans for the weekend.

Unfortunately, you never want to see their face and you’d rather your friends deleted them on various accounts just like you. However, from the friends’ perspective, they didn’t do anything wrong.

Another thought process that normally goes through one’s head after a breakup, is should I block them? Even after you unfriend or unfollow them you may find yourself constantly trying to search their name to see what they are up to.

Emotionally that is going do no help and so maybe as some form of discipline you should completely rip the plaster off and remove them from your life. Unless the relationship ended on good terms then maybe none of this unfriending business is necessary.

What do you think?

Gracie x

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Does Not Feeling Remorse Automatically Make You A Bad Person?

Does Not Feeling Remorse Automatically Make You A Bad Person?

Remorse, for those who don’t feel it, is this feeling where you feel guilty. Whatever you have done or haven’t done you realise was wrong. You are able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and you understand you have probably hurt their feelings. However, does not feeling guilty automatically make you a bad person?

Let’s discuss a scenario.

What is worse; someone who cheats on you but admits they are sorry or someone who cheats on you but never tells you because they feel no guilt towards what they have done.

Whatever the circumstances, cheating is never a viable option. If you have committed yourself to a relationship and find out a few months or years down the line that relationships aren’t for you, then discuss options with your partner.

But let’s think about this logically; what you don’t know won’t hurt you. If you never found out about the cheating you would always believe that you were in a happy and stable relationship, you only get upset once they’ve either told you or been caught in the act.  

If you had done something that you knew was wrong and wanted to tell your partner, surely it is more for your benefit. If you are constantly being eaten up by guilt whilst it will hurt their feelings you will feel better after being honest. You admit what you have done for your sake rather than for there’s.

In this situation, whether the person felt remorse for what they did or not; they both are a bit of an arsehole.

Just because someone feels no remorse doesn’t necessarily mean they are mentally unstable. They shouldn’t be immediately put into a category of being a narcissist, a psychopath or a sociopath. It might be more difficult to gain a relationship with this person but it doesn’t mean they are a terrible human being.

At the end of the day, we are constantly trying to give less of a fuck and to stop caring about everyday life. It is a lot better to live a life without a care in the world than to be constantly stressed out. The fact that there are people out there who can’t feel regret or guilt just means they are living a more carefree life than you.

Gracie x

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Unrequited Love Isn’t Romantic

Unrequited Love Isn’t Romantic

Unrequited love is one sided love, it is when someone is loving someone else in isolation and not getting anything back. When one isn’t getting enough attention from anyone else they will love and love someone even though that person treats them like shit.

It is disgusting, weak and self-destructive and yet we have all at one point done it.

Why do we bother with the goose chase? Why do we bother going after people who don’t love us back?

We constantly feel we aren’t good enough for we have decided that self-worth is dependent on this other person. If they can’t love you, then no one can, right?

Let’s think about this logically; why do we want them so badly if they don’t love us back? When someone shows you a lack of interest that is a signal for you to move on, not to try harder. It is so much easier to let go of something that will never work than to continue wasting your effort.

As cliché as this will sound the main reason we allow people to treat us like shit is because we don’t love ourselves. We treat ourselves like shit. We accept the love we think we deserve, so we allow those to treat us how we feel we should be treated.

If we don’t believe we deserved to be love at all then we will find ourselves a match to people who also believe we don’t deserve to be loved. These people will take advantage of you over the fact you have feelings for you. They will lead you on, they will play games, they won’t call or text you when they said they would. All because they know that you love them.

Instead of moving on and finding someone else who does actually love you, you continue to let this person play games with your feelings for that’s what you feel you deserve.

Just because this person doesn’t think you are amazing doesn’t mean you’re not.

Gracie x

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