Why Do People Get Plastic Surgery?

Why Do People Get Plastic Surgery?

They are two main reasons why one decides to get plastic surgery. The first reason is because of an accident, a birth defect or an illness. The person has been disfigured in some way and they are hoping the plastic surgery will help with both their suffering and their embarrassment.

However, I want to discuss the second reason people get plastic surgery.

The second reason people get plastic surgery is to become more attractive. To cover up insecurities that they no longer want to deal with.

Everyone has their own flaws and sometimes people can get too insecure about their flaws. People can get so insecure to the point they feel they need to get something done to improve on it.

Whilst plastic surgery has decreased in general in 2017 the most popular surgery in 2016 were boob jobs. This is mainly due to the fact that women are constantly told that small boobs are considered unattractive. I understand a lot of people believe bigger is better but that isn’t necessarily the case. Wouldn’t you prefer natural over fake anyway?

I get it. Not everyone is blessed with fantastic genetics and sometimes the flaws you have or think you have isn’t something that can be changed by yourself. For example, someone who is overweight and is self-conscious about their weight can change how they look themselves. Whilst losing weight is not an easy process, especially for some who may not be naturally slim, you don’t immediately have to go to plastic surgery to get the results you want. However, if you’re an adult female who has done her necessary growing and is still flat chested, there’s nothing you can do to change that.

Personally, I am somewhat against plastic surgery where it is unnecessary. You have to bear in mind there are always going to be risks involved and if you’re only going through the procedure to look “better”, is it worth it?

Maybe because I don’t see anything wrong with my own body I can’t understand the need for plastic surgery. As long as the person was doing the surgery for themselves and not someone else. But let’s be honest here we always tell ourselves we are doing it for us when subconsciously it is for someone else.

For example, when you get ready for the day is there someone from your work, college or university that you think about when picking out your outfit?

Maybe these people who are getting the plastic surgery done for themselves when subconsciously they are thinking about what other people think of them?

However, there are some people out there who no matter how much you love them they will continue to hate themselves and the way they look. It is one thing to be bullied at school because of your appearance but it is another thing to constantly see on social media or in magazines that you aren’t the definition of beauty in today’s society.

We live in a world where people are obsessed with being attractive. Is it your fault for not loving that person hard enough or were they always going to go for the plastic surgery anyway?

Gracie x

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Is Makeup False Advertising?

Is Makeup False Advertising?

False advertising is when you show a product as being something it isn’t, so in terms of a woman wearing makeup could it be considered false advertisement?

Technically, yes. If we were selling ourselves. To be considered as false advertising we have to be advertising something in the first place.

Makeup is used to cover up any flaws or imperfections on the face or is used to merely make the face seem pristine and flawless. Whether it be used to cover up acne and bags under the eyes or give yourself a photoshopped model look. Makeup makes us the best version of ourselves we want to be. A bit like alcohol.

Personally, I don’t bother with makeup unless it is on a special occasion or a night out. This isn’t because I believe I am walking perfection or anything like that. I mean I know I’m not unattractive but everyone looks better with makeup with that being its entire purpose in existing. I’m just too lazy to get up earlier to make sure I look better, I’d rather have the sleep than flawless skin. Also, like every other woman product, makeup is expensive.

Makeup does hide who we actually are. However, if you see a girl on a night out who has glittery eyelids, assume that isn’t how she naturally looks.

A lot of men assume we wear makeup for their benefit or to get their attention. After all, looks being the first thing that grabs people’s attention. However, have you ever thought about us spending all that time and effort on our face for our own benefit? I hardly ever wear makeup but when I do bother I do feel like walking perfection.

You constantly tell us you prefer us to be natural but yet you don’t like the sight of our faces when we do that, so what is it to be?

Gracie x

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Beauty or Brains?

Beauty or Brains?

According to most romantic comedies, there are two personality types when it comes to females. The first one is the hot blonde with the perfect figure but an imperfect grade. Whilst she may be a solid 10 out of 10 she is annoyingly stupid but most people let her idiocy slide because of her good looks.

The second type is the reversed, nerdy girl who focuses more on getting straight As than on socialising. Whilst she may know the works of Einstein she is disgusting to look at.

According to society, women can either be beautiful or be smart, it is almost unheard of to be both. You have to choose whether you get married or get a degree.

When I talk about beauty I mean naturally. I’m not talking about being able to look like walking perfection after spending an hour on your face because anyone can look good with makeup. That is its main purpose, to cover certain flaws and make you look better.

In terms of the brains side of things, no one is expecting you to be an autistic genius who can do difficult mathematical sums in a small amount of time. As simple as it sounds even having something such as common sense can make you come across as smart. Ironically common sense isn’t actually that common?

Another thing that makes woman smart is being passionate about something. For example, I wouldn’t necessarily I am the most academic person. It is why I am sat writing this blog rather than trying to continue my education in uni. However, I would say I have a passion for writing. Whether it be this blog, my book of poetry or anything. Having ambitions can make a person smart rather than moping around never knowing what do with one’s life.

We live in a shallow society and whilst the brains would get people places quicker, we are obsessed with being attractive. With apps like Snapchat and Instagram, it is all about beauty these days. Don’t worry your child might not know their times tables but at least they know they need good lighting when taking a selfie.

If mirrors and cameras didn’t exist would we care less about our appearance? Whilst yes you would still have other people commenting on your looks would you care if you didn’t know what they could see anyway?

Out of the two, I personally believe brains is the superior. It is more important in the long run and the one that will stay with you forever. At the end of the day when we all turn old we will no longer beautiful, but at least the smart ones will still have their brains.

But remember, whilst it may be rare, it is possible to be both beautiful and smart.

Gracie x

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Are Break Ups More Difficult Nowadays?

Are Break Ups More Difficult Nowadays?

Dating in the age of social media is becoming more difficult. And so is breaking up.

Whilst social media platforms help you connect with people they don’t necessarily help you disconnect from people you never want to see again.

In the 90s, it was easier. You broke up and they disappeared from your life.  Your ex was your ex and whilst you may have been curious about what happened to them there was no way to find out. They could have moved to Africa and you would have never known.

Wherever they were one thing was for certain. They weren’t in your life.

The way relationships work is that once you know the person you are dating is genuine and somewhat right for you, you introduce them to your friends. That happened whether you were dating in the 90s or today.

The only problem with today that would have never happened in the 90s is that your partner and your friends would have made these online friendships. They would have been added on Snapchat and Facebook and followed on Instagram and Twitter. Even after you have deleted them off everything possible you still have friends that are friends with them on various social media platforms and still feel it is necessary to constantly update you.

You only met them because of me just delete them already.

The whole point of moving on is to forget the other person even existed. It is going to be more difficult to move on if you’re always being told about their plans for the weekend.

Unfortunately, you never want to see their face and you’d rather your friends deleted them on various accounts just like you. However, from the friends’ perspective, they didn’t do anything wrong.

Another thought process that normally goes through one’s head after a breakup, is should I block them? Even after you unfriend or unfollow them you may find yourself constantly trying to search their name to see what they are up to.

Emotionally that is going do no help and so maybe as some form of discipline you should completely rip the plaster off and remove them from your life. Unless the relationship ended on good terms then maybe none of this unfriending business is necessary.

What do you think?

Gracie x

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Does Not Feeling Remorse Automatically Make You A Bad Person?

Does Not Feeling Remorse Automatically Make You A Bad Person?

Remorse, for those who don’t feel it, is this feeling where you feel guilty. Whatever you have done or haven’t done you realise was wrong. You are able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and you understand you have probably hurt their feelings. However, does not feeling guilty automatically make you a bad person?

Let’s discuss a scenario.

What is worse; someone who cheats on you but admits they are sorry or someone who cheats on you but never tells you because they feel no guilt towards what they have done.

Whatever the circumstances, cheating is never a viable option. If you have committed yourself to a relationship and find out a few months or years down the line that relationships aren’t for you, then discuss options with your partner.

But let’s think about this logically; what you don’t know won’t hurt you. If you never found out about the cheating you would always believe that you were in a happy and stable relationship, you only get upset once they’ve either told you or been caught in the act.  

If you had done something that you knew was wrong and wanted to tell your partner, surely it is more for your benefit. If you are constantly being eaten up by guilt whilst it will hurt their feelings you will feel better after being honest. You admit what you have done for your sake rather than for there’s.

In this situation, whether the person felt remorse for what they did or not; they both are a bit of an arsehole.

Just because someone feels no remorse doesn’t necessarily mean they are mentally unstable. They shouldn’t be immediately put into a category of being a narcissist, a psychopath or a sociopath. It might be more difficult to gain a relationship with this person but it doesn’t mean they are a terrible human being.

At the end of the day, we are constantly trying to give less of a fuck and to stop caring about everyday life. It is a lot better to live a life without a care in the world than to be constantly stressed out. The fact that there are people out there who can’t feel regret or guilt just means they are living a more carefree life than you.

Gracie x

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Tea, Anyone?

Tea, Anyone?

For those of you that live under a rock, something that has been advertised on virtually every social media platform recently is these “detox” and “weight loss” teas and coffees. The main aim of them to do rid your body of any toxins by drinking a cup of either tea or coffee every morning and evening. Apparently, by getting rid of these toxins in your body it will promote fat burning and therefore you will be left with this lovely toned body by losing weight. The main companies you would have most likely seen advertised are ‘Fit Tea’, ‘The Skinny Coffee Club’ and ‘BooTea’.

Now whilst I have never actually used any of these teas or coffees before I have studied biology in the past. Whilst I may have failed biology A Level, I’m pretty sure your liver, kidney, and lungs tend to get rid of any nasty toxins in your body.

Another thing these companies do is they always advertise the drink with some tanned, toned girl in her underwear drinking the tea or coffee.

This is stupidly unrealistic because firstly, it is dangerous to consume a hot drink in your underwear because you could spill it and burn yourself. More importantly, this drink isn’t going to make you toned or tanned for that matter.

Detox is just a fancy name for laxatives. This drink will just make you shit yourself.

These companies understand that those who buy their product want to lose weight in some way so sometimes they offer recipes or meal plans to help with one’s weight loss journey. Most of the reviews show, on any of these products, that those who changed up their diet as well as drinking the tea or coffee lost the weight. However, those who continued to eat as they were whilst drinking the beverage didn’t lose the weight.

It’s not the overpriced drink that is helping you lose weight. It’s your change of diet.

But then you knew that. You were just hoping for an easy route to get to your dream figure. The only way you are going to look good is if you work for it.

Gracie x

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Having a Mental Illness Isn’t Pretty

Having a Mental Illness Isn’t Pretty

Can we get one thing straight; mental illnesses aren’t pretty. Just because you’re extremely sad does not automatically mean you have depression. With any illness or disease, doctors have to make sure the individual checks enough boxes before they can give a diagnosis. Each illness has then a set of complex symptoms that you have to be experiencing. If a doctor were to get a wrong diagnosis it would ruin their reputation. Doctors wouldn’t spend 7 years in education if it was that easy.

Also, Google isn’t a doctor. If you seriously think you’re mentally ill go to an actual one.

Since the birthing of Tumblr, mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety have almost been seen as desirable to have. Having a mental illness can affect your daily life to the point of not being able to hold up a stable job.

I get it. We are constantly told to stand out and not follow the crowd like sheep. However, one in four of us suffers from depression so in reality, you’re just like everyone else.

If you are going to fake a mental illness, choose Antisocial Personality Disorder because being a sociopath seems a lot more interesting than being depressed.

(I’m hoping you detected the sarcasm in that last sentence)

Mental illnesses aren’t some personality quirk some people have, they are life-consuming. Most people who do suffer from them feel embarrassed getting help and you’re there picking all the easy symptoms to have. In all honesty, it is disrespectful for those who have actually been diagnosed.

Paedophilia is a mental illness, shall we romanticise that one too? No, I didn’t think so.

Eating disorders are another mental illness that seems to be romanticised. There are even posts on Tumblr that talk about self-control and how some people wish they could be anorexic. That’s not just romanticising, that’s actually telling people that it is attractive to have an eating disorder. Some people are naturally skinny and some are not. You shouldn’t be forcing the idea of an eating disorder down people’s throats. If you want to lose weight, change your diet and exercise more.

Who said that being skinny to the point of being able to see someone’s ribs was even attractive in the first place?

Are people trying to seem more interesting?

It is not like you go up to people and say “Hi, I’m Grace and I’m mentally unstable”.

There is a difference between being sad and having depression or being anxious and having anxiety. No human is a completely emotionless robot but there is a difference between suffering from mental illness and just experiencing a normal emotion.

Grace x

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